It's only a matter of time before DBT is more readily available and accesible. The intimacy that non-personality-disordered people enjoy is stressful . The letter and all the post did help me a little tonight tho. Refresh. Its not your fault. Dear Friends, Family Members, Lovers, Ex-lovers, Coworkers, Children, and others of those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder. We had to behave in ways that would please the caregiver at any given moment in order to stay safe and survive. I have a wife and a Daughter who both have BPD wanting to die and both are in Psych Wards. An Open Letter to "Non BPDs" from those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder: Dear Friends, Family Members, Lovers, Ex-lovers, Coworkers, Children, and others of those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder, You may be frustrated, feeling helpless, and ready to give up. Don't expect me to ever open up to you again." When he is having his episodes he verbally attacks me. Tonight tho as she is in the psych ward I feel as tho my world is crashing down around me. BPD is also sometimes known as 'emotionally unstable personality disorder', but even that label feels somewhat prejudiced to me. I am about to give birth to my first child and one of my baby's grandparents most likely has Borderline Personality Disorder (previously diagnosed with Paranoid Personality Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Depression, and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, but many of us believe BPD is a more comprehensive explanation and DBT type therapy/interactions are the only things that have consistently had a positive impact). | This seems to be at the crux of NPD, the refusal to show vulnerability. Children are malleable, they are clay being shaped by their parents and by their experiences. I scream out (or maybe I don't) and no one knows what the heck I'm talking about. I am generally very good at keeping my head, but every now and then I can behave a bit more extremely, and those are the worst incidents. But I would like to point out that I am not (neither are other people with this disorder) hopeless to date. The stigma. I never agreed with the diagnosis either for myself and realized I actually have complex PTSD. The mind is very complex. Thank you for your kind comment. Copyright 2021 NAMI. Copyright 2023 NAMI. I was petrified of losing you; the intensity of my emotions, the world and the endless possibilities absolutely petrified me. Every single time you embrace my stable days when I'm the peachiest version of me you ever get to experience. ive stuck with her while she tells people 1365 dif reasons we arent together. Maybe it wasnt all my fault like I was always told and I always believed. "I was just a kid whose family were all alcoholics and heroin addicts. Debbie, Hi Andrea you are very welcome. After reading this letter i feel that i myself wrote most of it. . I have the unique ability to "throw people off" my scent when they get close to calling me out on stuffThe only reason why I am here is because my oldest told me tonight that he knows that I am "unwell" and expressed himself honestly about those characteristics in my behavior that are destroying him emotionally to be fair, I am dealing with a lot of unnormal stuff, but am really unclear as to where it all ends and I begin I really have no idea, and I am miserable. I am so sorry that you are suffering as a result of your sister's behavior. I am sorry that my borderline personality disorder (BPD) got in the way of our family and us. This post is just to give you an idea of the typical suffering and thoughts those of us with BPD have. Something wasnt right, but you still lay down next to me every night. I had an outstanding relationship with her with much in common and few if any disagreements to the extent that I am totally convinced that she was 'the one' for me (I'm a 48 year old man that has been around the block enough to be a good judge of this) and am not entirely prepared to give up on her. Thank you so much. Somewhere between 1.6% and 5.9% of adults in the US have BPD, a personality disorder that's characterized by difficulty regulating emotion. It was both painful and hopeful to read it. Even our perception that abandonment is imminent can cause us to become frantic. , Oh Debbie, once again, you have kept it real. What you have written here is one of the most accurate and personable depictions of BPD, it gives way to understanding and hope. People with BPD are also more inclined to exhibit impulsive behavior or . She is a wonderful Woman and I love her with all my heart, my life, my everything. NEA.BPDAust - Family connections. I now am 49 and still have anger issues with myself but no selfharming. My wife tried to take her life 16 days ago. Encourage self-care. So hard sometimes. . Its that extreme. This is called splitting, and its part of the disorder. We need help with how he can support me and she is willing to speak to us about what its like for families of BPD. She told me the other day that I didn't need to be hospitalized or need medications because now i have a job. I accept the consequences of my actions and how they have affected you, I didnt realize then how much it affected me too. I worked as part of a DBT team during the last few years before my retirement. This site uses cookies to give you the best, most relevant experience. Wow does this roller coaster ever end??? They may do this without regard for others or possible consequences. Check this out. I mean, I know that makes me sound selfishand I am a lot more than I used to be. Thank you so much for your comment and for sharing your own progress. I am scared that I am destroying my children, whom I love so very much. 50 reviews of McLean Hospital "You know what? I shouldn't have apologised, and this time I won't. I did get committed here. Debbie now teaches the DBT skills that helped change her life over at. But what the BPD sees as abandonment, we see as self care (which ironically is one of the suggestions handed down in this open letter). Unskilled borderline sufferers can be a lot to handle and some BPD behaviors necessitate separation. You are toxic. I love her but ive been told coz of bpd I have an inability to love, is that true, that I just dilude myself that she was the one? thank you. But I want him back. And it felt like nothing I could ever do to try to improve myself would ever matter to the people I cared for, because of everything that had happened in my past. This is just another manifestation of BPD. This isn't to say that they're evil. 1. Debbie. This is the hardest thing of all for me to overcome. A person with BPD can act in impulsive and often dangerous ways. It will be a long road, but she will need the support of her family. Celebrities and Famous People With Borderline Personality Disorder. You're absolutely right that small paragraph is all that any mother with BPD who has damaged her children not only should say but it's the only thing she has any right to say. I wish you peace. I can tell you, from personal experience, that working on this illness through DBT is worth the fight. A trigger is something that sets off in our minds a past traumatic event or causes us to have distressing thoughts. Thank you very much for your perspective. Thank you for sharing it with this forum. Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a mental health issue that causes emotional instability and can affect how people manage their moods and interact with other people. Harder than bringing up 4 kids and being away from them for long periods. I wish I had read this 6 year's ago. Debbie, Hi Beauty thank you very much for your kind feedback. I briefly contemplated not telling my story because of that very fact, but have decided to post it despite that fact. It's like you're a baby learning everything all over again. This is an example of how manipulative people with BPD can be. Anyway, other programs in the area (I was without work for awhile) want NOTHING to do with mental health issues. ive been through the same, she knows she has it but cant have anyone know, she cant have people think shes not perfect and happy. Remember that your words, love, and support go a long way in helping your loved one to heal, even if the results are not immediately evident. Required fields are marked *. This insidious illness is as we know is the relationship killer. Thank you for reading this. You are a source of admiration, thanks for your courage and generous words. I just wish more people were aware of how damaging the things they say really are to anyone with any kind of mental illness. This comment has been removed by a blog administrator. Self-harm, threatening or attempting suicide. Thank you for writing this. Thank you for sharing your experience, and wishing you healing and recovery in your family. I'm very grateful for his letter, Christine. One must only have 5 symptoms out of 9 to qualify for a diagnosis, and the combinations of those 5-9 are seemingly endless. I know others requested to share it and I too would love to share it with a client, or perhaps imply put it up on the wall in my office =) Are you comfortable with it?I wish you skillful means. She is educated and successful, and to all the other people in her life, except for close family, she seems confident and put together. She is also using emotional blackmail, saying if I divorce her it would kill her. Sometimes we even take on the mannerisms of other people (we are one way at work, another at home, another at church), which is part of how weve gotten our nickname of chameleons. Sure, people act differently at home and at work, but you might not recognize us by the way we behave at work versus at home. The reason being, that it is common knowledge for those with mental illness to understand how damaging social stigma can be, but I believe it is just as damaging to read numerous success stories about people who have suffered themselves. I believe we could work at our enmeshment together and make this work. Reacting to someone with borderline personality disorder is a challenge. This is called dissociation. Impulsive behavior is a primary symptom of BPD. People with BPD have extreme mood swings, unstable relationships and trouble controlling their emotions. A Brief Look at My Life with Borderline Personality Disorder. Their moods are so intense that they interfere with everyday life. As a therapist I was aware of not breaking confidentiality, yet wanting to show potential and new clients that change is possible. I am LOST! I refuse to believe it. When I was told what it was, I went home and researched everything I could about it. I can't help it. Explore the different options for supporting our mission. Showing your love and support will make them more willing to see your point of view and help them understand your desire for healthy boundaries. Your letter touches on a subject that my husband and I are taking to my therapist just this week. Currently, my BPD symptoms are worsening. I want there to be love in the world. By sharing your experience, you can let others know that they are not alone. I was petrified of losing you; the intensity of my emotions, the world and the endless possibilities absolutely petrified me. I will try and find your blog, Lots of love Kat. The hardest thing about tonight's episode is that I don't know how long it will take for her to recover. Best of luck! I have successfully alienated my oldest who is 12 and see how my behaviors are effecting my youngest who is 7. They said that it was more important to show me how much they love me than to go on long vacations alone. What the person with borderline personality disorder will do is they will make the five calls and immediately attempt a sixth." . Debbie, what a brilliant letter! Its hard, and my life sucks.. My blog is aggis.wordpress.com, but its in norwgian, lol. Hope can be returned. I had struggled long and hard, it was enough. I am sorry for blaming you. They actively seek to control the perception of BPD in the same exact way they try to control how they are perceived as individuals. Don't think we will ever get back now, gotta give it to her though, she was the only one who understood me. It's thought. I was diagnosed with BPD about seven years ago. I'm fortunate enough to have a man in my life who is willing to put up with my ups and downs, how mean I can be for no reason so many things. Borderline personality disorder is a pattern of instability in interpersonal relationships, problems with self-image, intense emotions, and impulsive behavior. Having empathy, or an understanding of BPD, does very little in terms of helping someone heal from, or protect themselves from, this abuse. In addition to learning more about BPD and how to self-care around it, be sure to do things that you enjoy and that soothe you, such as getting out for a walk, seeing a funny movie, eating a good meal, taking a warm bath whatever you like to do to care for yourself and feel comforted. After experiencing a lack of support at work, Beth became a champion for workplace mental health. You never know thoughit could end up being really helpful to hear from others who are going through the very same things as you. I am scared, and I am alone. And they can have somthing themselvesand lie to themselves. Hay Debbie, I can relate to so much of this. Research has focused on the psychopathological tendencies of children whose I want nothing more than get back with her but I dont know how to convey that I love her, that I would fully support her if she would be willing to explore and face this and wont leave. This post is just to give you an idea of the typical suffering and thoughts those of us with BPD have. clearly point to BPD. It is possible that something that you said or did triggered us. It wasn't untill this year, despite 15 years of being labelled, i was able to get that changed. I'm constantly dropping things I'm doing or putting myself in awkward situations so I can be there. I have passed it on to my family and friends who support me. What loved ones may not realize though . If you've ever read anything about BPD, you've probably heard of people who are "abusive . Debbie. You are a strong person for working so hard to heal yourself. I feel like they deserve better and that I have failed miserably. Dear Debbie, i am so glad that i found you letter. Using this website means you're okay with this. Yes, YOU can imagine. I have to agree with DBTChick. However, it's my belief that the letter does little to help the children of borderlines. I wish I could show this to my boss. This letter might help on the explaining part, but the latter? It's kind of just an awesome miracle that I've come as far as I have. No one from the hospital has ever contacted me about her condition or treatment plan, I have been left totally in the dark and out of her recovery. document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Needless to say, it hasn't been easy for either of us. All of this is new to me, just as it is with so many others, and as much as I would love the help of regular therapy I know that I have to help myself - but it is HARD. This time she almost did it. Click to enable/disable Google reCaptcha. We may request cookies to be set on your device. It felt as though my very real issues were being labelled as some sort of 'mood swing'. Don't give up on YOU. Australian BPD Foundation. What stands out for me is HOPE! It was total and it was overwhelming and it could be cruel." Cassandra Clare. Click to enable/disable Google Analytics tracking. The more people are aware and care, the more people we can help. I am so happy that you feel it was a help to you, and I appreciate all of the kind things you said. I am sorry I didn't get help. Which has had a negative impact in my own life and relationships. Thank you for the hope you have given us.and putting it in terms we can understand. My family "tolerates" me. Our 25 year old daughter tried to kill her self last night also. I truly hope you have connected with resources to support you and have had a chance to learn more about DBT! BPD symptoms can include complex and unhealthy thought processes, anxiety, poor self-image, and dramatic mood swings. I attended the Women's Treatment Program at the Hill Center, which is a Partial Hospitalization program focused on Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), a therapeutic model designed to treat Borderline Personality Disorder, but also proven effective for Major Depressive Disorder, Bi-Polar, and various Anxiety . Then I was abandoned againwe all know about that. How can I stay and support them, but protect myself as well?' I am a male who's spent the last three and a half years dealing with a partner with BPD, do not give up, there are people who love you enough and are strong enough to deal/fight through this with you. Debbie, Hi Damask thank you so much for taking the time to write such a beautiful comment. I can't be myself around you. I had no hope in life, no future as it seemed. If you make plans, try to keep them, or offer a clear reason why you can't. Make sure you're not blowing hot and cold. I have emotionally detached myself quite well this time I think. But I know this is fantasy. Happy for you both. Love, Linda <3. My dad likely has BPD too because my mother lived through 30 years of marriage with this. Its like every step I had ever taken to better myself since my diagnosis, just never happened. I wish my girlfriend had been able to do what you have done, she fought for me for a long time, but it just became to much for her. i was wondering if you could answer something for me though. I have had to go No Contact because when I do contact him, my addiction to him leaves me suicidal with depression. Thank you. Maybe we should bandage our heads and hearts. Note that blocking some types of cookies may impact your experience on our websites and the services we are able to offer. I am the 30 year old sister with BPD. Harder than playing the guitar to 3000 people. Of course all of this makes me wonder..maybe i'm just lazy or _____ whatever.and then some family members think I *want* to be depressed or anxious or whatever (they think the origin was my mother's death, 20 yrs ago, but I was depressed before that and have told them). Click to enable/disable _gid - Google Analytics Cookie. You juggled everything with such grace, intelligence and humility even as your husband found it harder to keep being the man you knew. 4. He says that the money we spent on therapy and meds has done nothing to help; he doesn't think it's worth it. You can also change some of your preferences. Again tks for this:), You are very welcome. You can check these in your browser security settings. I've had some, don't get me wrong, just nothing that's helped long-termand now that I *think* bpd hits the nail on the head, it just happens to be this mysterious, new labeland of course no one can see it. She is restarting DBT group in a few weeks. And now with this kind, loving man by my side I feel comfortableand so he gets the wrath of this chaotic mind. I want to know that honesty and loyalty exist. He will say that he knows that I love him but he isn't sure if he loves me and that he might be the one who'll give up. Hi Healing from BPD-What a great letter! You have come a long way and thank you for helping the rest of us!!! That book made me see that there are good people in the world. I really appreciate all of the kind, encouraging words you've offered here. I am a woman with BPD. OMG. We use cookies to let us know when you visit our websites, how you interact with us, to enrich your user experience, and to customize your relationship with our website. Not all of the situations I described apply to all people with Borderline Personality Disorder. Ironically, he was a doctor, a darn good one too if I might add.Now, having three daughters, I am struggling to find a way to explain to my girls that I love them despite the way I acted, and in dillema whether it's best to live apart from them for their sake since my BPD might influence their mental growth, and miss them or stay and make matters worse. I wish I knew if there was some real possibility to salvage our relationship or even that we will talk again. Its difficult, after all, to relate to others properly when you dont have a solid understanding of yourself and who you are, apart from everyone else around you. Ive not recovered fully from this. For some of us, we had childhoods during which, unfortunately, we had parents or caregivers who could quickly switch from loving and normal to abusive. My sister has borderline personality disorder and yes, I am separating myself from her because of the years of abuse directed to me and my family. Paranoia or emotional detachment. An open letter to family and friends regarding the person they know with Borderline Personality Disorder, Manipulative, attention-seeking, dramatic, broken, crazy. The Perks of Being a Borderline Resilient, Got BPD? She read some of your other posts and she said she could see a lot of similarities between us. She has latched onto a fiction that I was mentally abusive towards her and refuses to co-parent in the interest of our son. This is an extreemly complicated disorder. I do love him and I am asking the Lord to help me help him. strong, overwhelming emotions and feelings. If BDP people are triggered into the abyss of misery, then so are we. Yesterday, I had to say goodbye to a dear friend of mine, because I became emotional and said things I never should have. Tonight I started to think: Maybe he's just giving me time to cool down after the last contact we had, and then he'll be in touch. Thankyou, once again, for putting your heart and soul open for us to share.xx. Please trust that, with professional help, and despite what you may have heard or come to believe, we CAN and DO get better. There is a lot of misconception out there about BPD. People with BPD typically have very strong emotional responses to events that seem minor to observers. I am sorry I was selfish. I feel like when i want to say something my mouth just won't move. My look on life was empty and my selfimage was terrible. Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a mental health condition defined by the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (the bedrock clinical manual of the mental health field). You live in unbearable psychic pain most of the time and in severe cases on the border between reality and psychosis. I am currently single, but hoping that someday she comes back to me and we can have the life together that i so know God chose for us Whatever your doing don't quit, don't run, fight, struggle.. you deserve to be loved. We are ordinary people who care for someone with BPD. Now she has totally disappeared from my life after just two years of marriage. It brought tears to my eyes. Explore the different options for supporting NAMI's mission. My perception as a child was that I was, in fact, the cause of her turmoil. over the years I couldn't figure out why I did the thjngs I did and people dealing with my behaviors would always resort to calling me crazy. Australia. But I'm learning how to deal with it, thanks in part to resources such as this open letter. It was so helpful to me. It's nice to hear this from a BPD perspective. About 1.7% of American adults have BPD in any given year, according to the National Institute of Mental Health. He seems to be in complete denial of my diagnosis. It will help many (like me) who haven't put all these beautiful words and explanations together in such a succinct and informative way.You should be very proud of this as you have quite a command of BPD and how to present it in a respectful and honest manner. . UPDATE: A video version of this letter, complete with narration and text, is now available for viewing and sharing by clicking HERE. Her idea of help is everyone doing what she wants, on her schedule. Symptoms of borderline personality disorder (BPD) at work can vary, including the different ways that these symptoms can affect your job performance and ability to "fit in" with your coworkers. That evening I spoke to a LCSW who was able to confirm that all her actions (plus a prior divorce, SI, estrangement from her children, abusive father and ex-boyfriends, etc.) My name was stated here originally, but due to the fact that all of my personal rights to this story are irrelevant the moment I post this, I have decided not to give it. The best thing we can do during these times is remind ourselves that this too shall pass and practice DBT skills especially self-soothing things that helps us to feel a little better despite the numbness. I am very excited for your ongoing healing! There is nothing you can do to fix it. For the children of a borderline, however, this is their reality. Use non-judgmental words to describe our behaviours. I read The Art of Asking by my favorite artist Amanda Palmer, and it was absolutely wonderful. But working also adds more stressors to an already stressed out life. We may jump from one friend to another, going from loving and idolizing them to despising them deleting them from our cell phones and unfriending them on Facebook. BPD expert and author, Randi Kreger, likens it to "having 'aural dyslexia,' in which they hear words and sentences backwards, inside out, sideways, and devoid of context.". Then she tells me she found an apartment and began moving every possible evidence that she ever lived here out of our home. I read your letter Debbie and most of the post. My mother has to pretty much do the same thing. Since these providers may collect personal data like your IP address we allow you to block them here. I am sorry you didn't feel loved. This open letter does an amazing job of outlining some of the hallmark symptoms of BPD. Instead, despite how I dread to say this, I am an outlet for her fears, insecurities and blame. He pushes me away but I can hear his cry for help. So thank you. I want to know that humanity can be beautiful. I hope to afford continuing to see my therapist. I made it though, and I now know that I have so much to offer to my future clients because of my own experience with mental illnesses. Not someone like me. Now go for it!! I wish you so much healing and hope as you continue on your journey. Additionally, the structured environment and clear communication skills required in event planning can help individuals with BPD manage their emotions and improve their interpersonal skills. Another thing you may have noticed is that spaced out look on our faces. I'm usually pretty good at keeping my head, and not fighting back, whenever she does this. I am sorry you didn't have a choice. We havent outgrown this. I have beeen through 3 years of DBT therapy and figuring out who i am and how i came to have this horrible disorder. All the feelings of worthlessness came flooding back into my head. You can see glimpses and more and more of who that person really is over time, if you dont give up. 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